11. Without a Village: Isolation, Honesty, and the Paradoxes of Modern Motherhood

We evolved raising children in clans of 50 or more other humans; today we live in homes with just a few other people. It goes against our very biology to raise children in isolation. It's really hard and really lonely, and it's not your fault.

In this episode I ramble into the microphone about my parenting journey. I am brutally honest and don't paint a rainbow over everything at the end. If you're already a parent, this episode will comfort you. If you're not and want to be, it'll give you a glimpse of your possible future and also maybe terrify you. If you're not and plan to keep it that way, you'll learn how to support the parents in your life.

I talk about:

  • How our fractured, nuclear family living hurts families and relationships
  • Emotional labor, women's invisible work, and the endless To Do list
  • The very different experiences I had with my daughters, born ten years apart
  • Sleep: I've both co-slept and sleep trained (also- SIDS and entrainment)
  • Realistic self care- does it exist? Kinda. Here's what I do
  • Building community
  • Herbs for mamas & kiddos
  • When does postpartum end?
  • Anxiety & motherhood
  • Choosing not to have kids
  • How the Maiden to Mother transition is different for everyone
  • The bone deep depletion of mothering
  • Being envious of non parents
  • Failing every day 
  • Come gather around this fire with me
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